As I type this, I have yet another friend whose life is in turmoil. Their marriage is circling the bottom of the toilet and getting ever closer to dropping into nothingness. Along with it will go the lives(at least for the near future) of their three children. Why is this happening? The quick answer in this case, is infidelity. I submit however, this is not the real problem. Some involved in this specific case might also point to financial stress. Again, I am going to disagree.
Across our country, and in the lives of someone you know, problems pertaining to sex and money are often blamed for the downfall of many a family. I would like to point the finger elsewhere.
1. Are you in love when you get married? Perhaps. Consider what love is(or means) for a moment.
Love is patient
Love is kind.
Love is not jealous or rude.
Love does not demand it's own way.
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged
Love NEVER gives up, NEVER loses faith
Love is ALWAYS hopeful, and endures through EVERY circumstance.
This phraseology uses finite terms. There are no exceptions to NEVER. ALWAYS does not have an expiration date. There are no morals or ethics clauses with an asterisk attached to the word EVERY.
2. Granted, when children are in the equation, things become considerably more complex. All possible measures, including (God help us) the legal and justice system of today should be employed in an effort to safeguard the interests of minors. Having said that..... If you are guilty of behaving in such a way that brings your children into a harmful situation, thereby violating the finite points mentioned above....then you clearly didn't LOVE your children to begin with.
Is this type of thinking realistic or even fair?
Let me answer in this manner... Wouldn't you like to live in a world, or even within marriage or friendship, where LOVE is ALWAYS dealt with in these terms?
Would you and your friends be better off living this way, or should we just stay with the status quo?
If you can't wrap your simple mind around such a basic concept, then stop getting married. Stop having children, And please stop throwing around the word LOVE like it's something you are entitled to.
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WOA!
We live in a society where everything we have is disposable...including the people in our lives. Its all about MY happiness, MY fulfillment...never about the greater good. This post is a great reality check for those of us (including myself) who sometimes get sucked into the world view of marriage and of life in general
thanks for putting it real we sometimes forget that marriage is hard work. it takes two people working together to make it work it cant be only about one. we must think long and hard how we treat each other we need to care about each others needs and wants.
Thanks for your emphasis on genuine LOVE that is much needed in all our lives. Obviously, we need more of the Lord God in our conscious lives since God is Love and we are all the product of such love, but unfortunately have not learned how to LIVE LOVE !
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